Archives For Game Plan

          FAMILY                              FINANCES      

 FAITH      

FITNESS                           FRIENDS 

  

Like family, Friends play a significant role and are a key factor in the 5 F’s, and there is no doubt what influence friends will have as I move into my Next 25. In two of my previous posts The Next 25 and part one of the 5 F’s – Family there are five elements to living my life differently now based on the life lessons learned.
 
 
 

Bob Balestri © istockphoto

 As I glance in my rear-view mirror covering my First 25 years since college, I see a guy who was blessed with great friends, some where the friendships go back over 3 decades. But I also see times where had I not been too proud to ask, advice would have been given which would have or could have influenced decisions and moved me in a different direction. Also see time when my conscious led me to seek advice, yet my ego led me to those whose advice mirrored what I wanted to hear and not what I needed to be told.

One glaring area was when I was at career crossroads and opened my company The Auto Source. While most assumed my motivation was to finally have my own business, something which had been a life-long ambition, had I solicited input from a few friends who already owned businesses I might have delayed or re-thought the real motivation for opening it at that time. Truth be told, after the company I ran was sold and the staff of 60+ people I had assembled was left with no say in our/my future, opening my company was my way of never letting that happen again. Even with a good business plan, faulty motivation and misguided mission will derail most businesses.

“your windshield is bigger than your rear-view mirror for a reason”

Jim Jurica © istockphoto

Moving forward into my Next 25, my focus will emphasize listening to and acting on the advice I’m given, solicited and unsolicited. Key friends have been assembled to form my circle of influence, or as Buckhead Churchcampus Pastor Jeff Henderson calls it, a personal advisory board. His thinking for his life is that if Coca Cola, Delta, and Home Depot think highly enough to utilize a board of advisers to influence and direct the course of their businesses, wouldn’t it be prudent and wise for an individual to do that as well. 

So in the midst of my transition into the Next 25 years since college, my circle of influence is in place and they have been given permission to speak into my life. They know my faults and weaknesses, my strengths and gifts, and have permission to speak into the times where and when they see faults and weaknesses manifesting themselves in my decision making process and when gifts are not being applied.

“Where there is no guidance the people fall,
But in abundance of counselors there is victory.”

Proverbs 11:14

Ultimately, we all have a choice of who and what has influence in our lives; but for me, glances into my rear view mirror of what a lack of influence cost me combined with this Bible verse has set the course for my Next 25 Years.

I highly suggest listening to Jeff’s message, A Word From The Coach, on the power of a personal advisor board especially if you happen to be questioning your purpose in life and or what should you do with your life from this point forward. If you answered yes to either question or if something resonated from what you’ve read here at Leveraging Life, I can’t think of a better way to kick off the New Year than making the time to listen to the entire Game Plan so Your game plan will be in place for 2011!

Next up is Finances and the role it plays in the 5F’s.

~Tom

trusting God period

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~My Desire~

Jeremy Camp

  

Both the song and the story behind the song are featured within this video by Jeremy Camp, just click on the link and then once again where it says Watch on YouTube, embedding of the video for some reason is limited.

In the past Worship Wednesday selections were songs and videos I hoped might inspire and encourage those who visited Leveraging Life, but I must admit My Desire hits home for me in so many ways and I think I’m selecting it more for me this week than LL community. But one thing I do know is I’m not alone in seeking to understand God’s will for my life and finding my purpose within that will. 

Finding purpose and God’s will for my life is something I’ve struggled with the last five years and is also something I’m trying to unpack in my series of posts called The Next 25. This past year I’ve become more intentional in recognizing life change occurs not when Tom’s will be done, rather when God’s Will Be Done. As the lyrics describe, we must first lay it all down before the King, and in doing so refrain from asking questions like: 

God what is your will for my life in _______________opportunity? 

God what is your will for my life with _____________ person? 

There is an amazing amount of peace when you come to understand you actually limit God’s will for your life in asking those fill in the blank questions which ask God to endorse what you’ve already deemed to be your will for your life

For me this is something I need to continue to remind myself….but I do see God’s hand in so much of what’s been going on in my life this past year and especially the last three-four months…..which is why this song has become a prayer for me!

 All my life I have seen where you’ve taken me
Beyond all I have hoped and there’s more left unseen

There’s not much I can do to repay all you’ve done so I give my hands to use

For those who seek to better understand God’s will for their life I highly recommend watching the Game Plan series we are currently working through at North Point Community Church and can be accessed here where you can watch for free online.

~Tom

trusting God period

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The Next 25

October 28, 2010 — 6 Comments

Can this really be true….next June I’ll have been out of college 25 years?

 

 

WOW,

just wow,

where has the time gone?                                              

 

 

 

Milestones for most folks revolve around birthdays and anniversaries, and for the most part they do for me as well; but this milestone has been a little tough to process.

I think at some point early on I created a mental timeline of what I hoped to accomplish by certain dates, some of which had to do with the expectations I had for myself and probably to some degree my interpretation of what others expected of me. College graduation by 1986, married by 19vv, head up sales for a dealership by 19ww, 2.5 kids by 19xx, run a dealership by 19yy, own a dealership by 19zz.

It’s funny how clarity is something that has a habit of finding you in the midst of you trying to find it; and this past Sunday it happened once again for me while at Buckhead Church listening to Pastor Andy Stanley’s Game Plan message about God’s will for our lives:

 “Your life is the sum total of the decisions you made and the influence of other decisions made about you.”

The timing of the message mixed with this looming milestone created some uneasy, yet healthy tension as I reflected over my last 25 years and using this statement as a filter. There have been so many twists, so many turns, accomplishments, disappointments; dreams that still exist and dreams that are long since gone, but the question that burns bright and one that excites me is; what will the next 25 look like?

I recently saw this tweet by Carey Nieuwhof:

“your windshield is bigger than your rear-view mirror for a reason”

I truly believe in the sentiment of the tweet and the importance of recognizing where you’ve been so you can focus on where you’re going; and something I plan on using to influence and shape my Next 25 years.

 

                                     FAMILY                                     FINANCES

                                                              FAITH

                                 FITNESS                                    FRIENDS

 

A few years ago a mentor shared with me something he called the 5F’s and how by focusing on these core areas they had established a foundation for how he was living his life. Essentially if you think of your life as something under construction, the foundation would have four footings with one center footing that interconnects the other four adding stability and support.

For me the adoption and implementation of 5F focusing in my life the last two years has led to a radical shift in my priorities. This shift in focus forced me to live more intentionally in all five areas, something I can honestly say I did not do very well in my first 25. For me, focusing on Faith first was essential because it functions like rebar supporting, connecting, and at times reinforcing the other four. And once the other four were connected through Faith in a real and personal way, I had a foundation (life) structured to withstand the twists and turns that life throws at you, including cancer. 

Over the next few posts I’m going to highlight each of the 5F’s. I’ll give you a snapshot of what what I have in that rear-view mirror from my first 25 and what is on the horizon through that big windshield as I apply the 5F’s to my next 25.

Some questions to ponder and I’d love to hear your thoughts as you look back and look forward!

-Have you experienced seasons where the past hindered your future?

-Is there something you see in the windshield that needs to finally move into your rear-view mirror?

~Tom

trusting God period

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