Step-Parenting: Stepping Into the Gap

October 27, 2012 — Leave a comment
Stepping Into The Gap

iStockphoto credit @ Sarun Laowong

I had not planned on writing a post this weekend as this is the “end of the month” and a busy time for our team here at the Subaru dealership. My plans however changed after reading one of the blogs I follow, Church Mag, where Dustin Stout shared a quote by Nick Vujicic:

“Your son and your daughter needs an excellent father more than they need an excellent college.”

Dustin shared: “that one quote alone annihilated me” and then he challenged his readers to, “take a second and think about it. Really think about it.”

So I did just that….

As a new Step-Father to teenage sons my thoughts are not about funding what comes next, something their Mom has done a great job taking care of, but my role in helping prepare them for what comes next. I’m blessed to have the opportunity to step into a gap and be a positive male influence in their lives while being under the same roof. My role of Step-Father is not one I take lightly, and I hope what they may perceive now as being available to them is something they later look back on as being intentionally invested in their lives. But as anyone who has raised teenagers will attest they really don’t want to spend a whole lot of time with parents or step-parents, so I’m often left wondering what the boys will say when looking back over these formative years.

Will they say I was there, married to their Mom?

Will they say I was there, married to their Mom, and added value to their lives?

Time will tell if I added value to their lives…but for time being I want this to be clear in their lives:

      • They know I love them unconditionally and I’m blessed to have them in my life!
      • They know I am there for them and they know can count on me!
      • They know I believe in them!
      • They know I believe God has an incredible plan for their lives!
      • They know I will do everything I can to help them become the Men God created them to be!

Life Lesson: Providing for and preparing for a child’s future requires both attention and planning. One is an allocation resources the other an allocation of time. Resources may fund a child’s future but time invested educating and equipping a child as their parent prepares them to navigate the future, regardless if planned or not.

~Tom

trusting God period! 

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Tom Martin is a Devoted Husband and Stepfather to teenage sons. As a cancer survivor, Tom shares his story and life lessons of what trusting God period looks like when facing adversity and setbacks. Tom operates a Subaru dealership North of Atlanta and serves at North Point Church as a Hope Mentor.